Jesse Leach's Check Your Head: Positive Mental Attitude
It’s been a while since we’ve heard from Jesse Leach, and with good reason. Since his last column, Jesse’s reunited with Killswitch Engage, with whom he’s been writing and touring with. It’s good to have Jesse back, as you will see in his latest contribution to Gun Shy Assassin
We live in a vast and beautiful world filled with fascinating places and people.
We live in a messed up world filled with evil, arrogant, selfish people who are looking out for themselves.
Both of those above statements are true, but which one do you think suits your average everyday thinking? Perspective has a great deal with how we see the world and the people in it. Take a few hours and surf the internet, reading columns, reviews, comments, Tweets, and Facebook posts (don’t waste your life reading YouTube video comments though; it is poisonous).
A vast majority are quite inherently negative. Visit your local pub or bar and listen to the conversations, people venting about the job they hate, the government, their miserable spouse, etc. etc. It is everywhere we go. Why is it we as “civilized” humans have a natural tendency to be dissatisfied, bitter and or angry with our lives? We distract ourselves with nonsense entertainment, drugs, alcohol or anything that gives us escape or eases our daily afflictions.
The more I travel and interact with people here in New York city or on tour, there is a common thread with people I have started to recognize. Misery loves company. What is at the root of all of this? A good friend’s grandfather had a saying: “You’re not happy, you’re not having a good day? It’s your fault.” Simple yet pretty spot on.
We are our own worst enemies in this life. We choose the people we surround ourselves with, we choose the jobs we work, we choose to get married, stay in a bad relationship. Granted there are always situations that feel out of our control — trust me, I know. However, at the end of the day, we have the will to make change, we have the strength to change our perspective!
All of us have bills to pay, a family of some sort with unique relationships and dysfunction of some sort. So what do you do? How do you react to certain situations, people, etc.? You have the “power” with the way you react to people or situations. You have the power of P.M.A. (Positive Mental Attitude).
It takes effort and a great deal of fortitude, but this philosophy works! After years of having this as my “mantra,” I find my self in bad situations taking a moment to analyze and adjust my attitude. To every negative there is a positive — that is science, straight up fact. It may take time to reveal itself but it is always there. If you keep that in mind and remind yourself of it, I promise you your life will be changed and affected.
There will always be tragic events where this philosophy may not quite apply or perhaps in time it will. I am not trying to be insensitive to anyone dealing with heavy stuff in life. There will always be exceptions. I am just suggesting in your everyday life, this will help you.
The whole reason I picked up a microphone almost 20 years ago was to use my voice to make a difference — to have my say. As I have grown, I see the power of music, the power of lyrics and intent in music. Music has shaped changed and strengthened me and I now seek to do the same for others.
When I was 16, I discovered the “Bad Brains” when I first heard the song “Attitude.” The lyrics are:
Don’t care what they may say
We got that attitude
Don’t care what you may do
We got that attitude
We got that PMA
Back when I was 16, the song hit me pretty hard, but I must admit I hadn’t lived a full life and had no idea of the impact that song would have on me as my life continued. Now, at days away from being 34-years-old, that song means more to me now than it ever did. Having dealt with depressions, tragedies and deaths, trials and tribulations, I can say with confidence looking back my perspective has changed and it has a lot to do with my attitude in life.
So from one human to another, here is some advice: stay positive, be strong and everything will transpire as it should in due time. P.M.A.!!! Also, in closing, break up your routine, step outside of what you would normally do and try some thing new; travel, go for a hike in nature, get away from your neighborhood, your usual places to eat and drink, etc. Experience some thing out of the ordinary. Life is too short and fleeting to cage yourself in and be a slave to routine. Its in your hands, don’t wait for some one else to do it for you, do it yourself.
See you on the road and thanks for reading.